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Hi Rima! So I was hoping for some advice. I'm half a year from turning 18, and I have pretty severe social anxiety. When I was 16, I applied for a job, went through the interview process, and was offered the job. On orientation day, however, I had a panic attack and fled home. I called later that night and declined the job, and haven't applied for a job since. Most of my insecurities stem from my weight, and fear of rejection. Any tips for social anxiety? Much love, xoxo

Okay, I have been thinking how to answer this ask. Unfortunately I don’t have a ready to go solution. But let me approach this question from an HR point of view (since that is what my job is about).
I’m not sure where you live, but let’s assume that the job you missed out on (as a 16yr old) was a studentjob. From a career point of view, it doesn’t affect your resume or your future possibilities.
Take it from me, though. If you get through the interview(s) and/or testing and they pick you, that’s it. They picked you. It’s important to realize, that they offered YOU the job, not someone else.  Which means they believe in YOU and any company right now will not hire someone if they think that you don’t have the right potential for this job. Of course, a first day/week/month/trimester etc can be scary. It is normal to wonder how your day is going to evolve. What helps for me is to prepare and focus on the positive. “Yay, a new job, new possibilities, what does the company do, what time do I have to be there, how do I get there”. The rest will work itself out. If you feel it becoming worse, maybe go to the toilet and try to rationalize things if possible. I know it’s easier said than done. <3
As for your weight ‘problems’, as a recruiter I search for the inner drive and enthusiasm of a person, the professional qualities they can offer a company. My colleagues do the same. If a company does stops the interview process because of weight, it’s obvious that it’s not a company with views that align with yours (or mine and all the body positive people here), plus working in a discriminating environment wouldn’t be productive anyway.
So I think it’s important to first of all try, give it a try. Pat yourself on the back if something works out. Don’t be too harsh on yourself, but try to push through as well.  Tell yourself “You can do it, it’s not that bad, c’mon, self” and focus on your goal. Those are the things that sometimes help me.
I hope that you can get something out of my answer and I wish you the best of luck. I believe in you. <3

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